Dad To Be Advice - Survive Pregnancy

The key to surviving your wife's pregnancy is adequate knowledge of pregnancy and strengthening your relationship thru communication. Get your hands into any book about pregnancy. There are a lot of books out there that cater to men dealing with their pregnant wife or girlfriend. I'm not saying you have to be a pregnancy-savant and I know reading this kind books might hurt your ego. Bear with me, a good amount of reading will reap rewards in the long run. Your wife would surely appreciate it if you regale her with bits of pregnancy facts. If books are too much for you try to talk to anyone about their experiences. You dad, a friend or a stranger who's willing to listen would be a big help. If you have decided who your doctor is going to be, don't hesitate to ask them questions. When it comes to your baby, there's no such thing as a stupid question. Bottom line is, be a sponge. Absorb everything you can. In this way you won't be caught off guard with the unexpected - or, even the expected.



Communication strengthens your relationship. Your stress levels are high and the threshold of frustration grows thin when you're exhausted. Your wife's nagging and complaints gets to you and you resent it. Even her horrible cooking skills - that doesn't bother you before irritates you. So you give up, let's face it, you didn't sign up for all this drama. But don't walk out yet. Just take a step back and try to see things from your partner's perspective. You're not the one carrying all that baby weight, leg cramps, the endless trips to the toilet. Wait till all your anger and frustrations have dissipated and then talk it out. Hear what she's saying and listen, be sensitive. Don't ignore your issues. Learn to work it out together. If not, your relationship may turn sour. No matter how hard it is, so many joys and experiences lie ahead that you might not want to miss out on.



If you think your wife's going crazy, don't stress it... it's the hormones talking.. Because the physical changes are so obvious, we forget that inside she is changing too. She may doubt herself at one time, and then be accepting in another. She may want to go through the pregnancy and then give up at the same time. She says I love you and beg you to stay by her side and say the opposite in a blink of eye. Actually, blaming hormones for the changes in her mood or your wife's personality is really an overstatement. Carrying a child is reason enough to cause ambivalence, confusion, and temperaments.



Hang on. Try to go along with your wife when she puts your hand on her tummy and insist that the baby is moving. Go along her window shopping trips and together daydream about her dream nursery room. Pretend to see it, while your doctor points at monitor and claims that it is the image of your baby's head, hands and genitalia. Nothing is better than the time when you hear your baby's heartbeat, a proof that, yes, you have healthy sperms. Finally, pregnancy can be joyous and unpleasant simultaneously and the only way to survive it is to accept the challenge, be open-minded and just go for the ride.

Source: www.howtohelpmypregnantwife.co.uk